Emotional Trauma is overwhelm to the nervous system that limits your capacity to cope. Narcissistic abuse IS trauma, as it limits how well you are able to cope within constraints of your life.
Living with an abusive person creates Trauma Bond. This is where your brain becomes addicted to the stress chemicals released during fight, flight, freeze or fawn. This constant state of heightened awareness of danger and or appeasing the abuser creates steady amounts of cortisol to the brain. Your brain becomes addicted to these chemicals, creating Trauma Bond. Your brain downplays the events, so you will stay in the abusive environment, so it gets it's fix of stress chemicals. This is also known as Stockholm Syndrome.
You feeling "crazy" is called Gaslighting. This is an insidious form of manipulation and psychological control. Victims of gaslighting are deliberately and systematically fed false information that leads them to question what they know to be true, often about themselves. They may end up doubting their own memory, their perception, and even their sanity. Over time, a gaslighter's manipulations can grow more complex and potent, making it increasingly difficult for the victim to see the truth. Gaslighting is done on purpose, to make the victim question their own memory and sanity, relying more and more on the abuser for reality.
No. A Narcissist can not be cured, fixed or changed. There is no medical or scientific proof, at this point, that a Narcissist can be cured. A Narcissist has experienced such Trauma in childhood, that the brain buried the true Self so far inside, to protect it from pain, that resulted in psychological rewiring of the brain, that caused the brain to not develop certain areas such as Empathy.
No. You are NOT a narcissist. The mere fact that you are asking is clear indication that no, you are not, a narcissist.
A Narcissist will not ask if they are a narcissist. They do not think that they are the problem...ever. You are the problem, according to the Narcissist. The Self in the Narcissist is buried so far below the surface, there is NO reaching the true self. To reach the True Self, one must take accountability for their actions, and this is something a narcissit cannot do, despite them going to a therapist or reading books or swearing they have changed.
Simple answer: to keep you on your toes. To manipulate you into reacting to him/her.
How many special occasions like Birthdays, Christmas, Anniversaries, vacations, Christmas parties has he/she ruined? Either by picking a fight, accusing you of cheating or something else?
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