Many people may have or had a narcissist in their lives. It may have been a parent, relative, co-worker or partner. The damage and trauma to you is the same.
Some are able to break free with minimal trauma while others feel the full effects of the chaos they lived in.
It is not a sign of weakness to seek help.
Your brain becomes addicted to the chemicals it releases when under stress. Walking on eggshells, flight, fight, freeze or fawn. Trauma Bond comes when your brain becomes addicted to the stress chemicals. This may take professional help to break.
Gaslighting is psychological manipulation covertly sowing seeds of doubt in a targeted person, making them question their own memory, perception or judgement.
The narcissist will shower you with attention and gifts, praise, putting you on a pedestal, tells you how talented and beautiful you are.
Makes future plans like a vacation or getting a house together, having a family together or having a family with you.
If you do something the narcissist doesn't like, setting a boundary or changing plans, they will disappear for a few days, will not reply to phone calls or texts. When they return, says they don't like drama, and you are too emotional.
Sheep do not put on wolves clothing to be evil.
Evil puts on sheep's clothing to pretend to be nice to get you and keep you under control.
Verbal abuse: includes belittling, bullying, accusing, blaming, shaming, demanding, ordering, threatening, criticizing, sarcasm, raging, opposing, undermining, interrupting, blocking and name-calling. Many people may occasionally do some of the above. Consider the context, malice and frequency of the behavior.
Manipulation: is indirect influence on someone to behave in a way that further the goals of the manipulator. Also known as covert aggression. A wolf in sheep's clothing. On the surface, the words spoken seem harmless or complimentary but you feel demeaned or sense hostile intent.
Emotional Blackmail: may include threats, anger, warnings, intimidation or punishment. It is a form of manipulation that provokes doubt in you. To make you feel intimidated by fear, obligation or guilt.
Gaslighting: intentionally making you distrust your perceptions of reality or believe that you're mentally incompetent.
Competition: competing and one-upping to always be on top, sometimes through unethical means.
Negative contrasting: Unnecessarily making comparisons to negatively contrast you with the narcissist or other people.
Sabotage: Disruptive interference with your endeavors or relationships for the purpose of revenge or personal advantage.
Exploitation and objectification: Using or taking advantage of your for personal ends without regard for your feelings or needs.
Lying: Persistent deception to avoid responsibility or to achieve the narcissist's own ends.
Withholding: Withholding such things as money, sex, communication or affection from you.
Neglect: Ignoring the needs of a child for whom the abuser is responsible. Includes child endangerment eg: placing or leaving a child in a dangerous situation.
Privacy Invasion: Ignoring your boundaries by looking through your things, phone, mail, denying your physical privacy or stalking or following you; ignoring privacy you have requested.
Character assassination or slander: Spreading malicious gossip or lies about you to other people.
Violence: Violence includes blocking your movement, pulling hair, throwing things or destroying your property.
Isolation: Isolating you from friends, family, or access to outside services and support through control, manipulation, verbal abuse, character assassination or other means of abuse.
Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children, co-workers, siblings, spouse, clergy, manager or boss.
Bullying is done by making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally and or excluding someone from a group on purpose.